Life has been a little chaotic lately while my boys have been home for summer break. Honestly, it’s to be expected.
The house is a little messy, there are toys and crumbs everywhere, and with their football practice schedule, it’s taking up all of our evening time.
I am a Type-A personality and naturally, function way better when things are going well. So when my house is a mess or I don’t get around to finishing a task, I start feeling like a failure and beat myself up about it.
And it doesn’t help that as moms, we already feel the pressure to “do it all.” We are somehow expected to focus 100% of our attention on our kids, while simultaneously keeping a spotless home, remaining in good shape, being madly in love with our partner, and not being on the verge of a complete mental breakdown, daily.
The sad part is, these are impossible standards, and I know it.
Learning to Give Myself Grace
What I realize I need is less self-criticism and practice more self-compassion when I feel like I’m not doing enough.
Because the truth is, I am doing my best.
The more I practice giving myself grace, the more I let go of this perfectionism.
Because grace is trying something new, and forgiving myself if I don’t get it right.
Grace is embracing my messy home to spend time with my family, and forgiving myself if someone drops by unexpectedly.
Grace is listening to my body when I need to rest, and forgiving myself for not getting things done.
Giving myself grace is not choosing to be lazy and neglecting my responsibilities.
More Grace, More Living
When you give yourself grace, you forgive yourself, instead of beating yourself up about the things you didn’t get done. What’s liberating about it all is that you get to focus on what matters most to you!
I told you what I’m struggling with right now while my kids are on summer break — it’s my messy home. But, someone once said, “We don’t remember the days, we remember the moments.” So, for now, I’m choosing to embrace the mess and give myself grace about it.
Where do you need to give yourself grace?